Donating Memories by Mark Compton

  
           When my mother passed away she left behind quite a few personal items: photo albums, letters, newspaper clippings; a stash of things I had never seen before. I was overwhelmed and decided to put it all in a trunk and every so often open the trunk, take something out and decide what to do with it: Keep it, toss it or. . .?

             I found two photo albums, one from the 1930s, the other the 1940s. She was born in 1920 so the first album would have been when she was a teenager. She was good at writing dates and places on the edge of the pics. One set of pics was taken at York’s Beach, Maine where the family vacationed. There was my mom in her 30s bathing suit, sitting on some rocks with her sisters, smiling looking like they were having a grand time.

             I am the youngest member of my family, in my 60s, have no kids, and neither my brother or sister have any kids. It turns out I’m the only one who’s really interested in these photos and personal mementos and when Gabriel blows his horn to call me home, all the contents of the trunk will be placed in the trash bin. I wanted to make sure that didn’t happen and began doing research.

             First, I thought there must be a historical society in York’s Beach and it turns out there is! I contacted them, told them about the pictures and offered to donate. They were delighted. I figured they would conserve them, put them on display and (hopefully) bring delight to the viewer. In this way my mother and her sisters will live on much, much longer than if the albums had stayed in the trunk.

             The albums and personal mementos really do tell the story of my mother. As I slowly find a “home” for these mementos I feel I’m keeping her story alive.

(Find the image of York Beach at the top of the post here, along with more then and now images)

6 responses to “Donating Memories by Mark Compton”

  1. Marilee Lasch Avatar

    How I can relate to your story Mark. Even tho there are a large number of children and grand children in my life, I have discovered no one is interested in our family history. My older brothers and sister have given me all their photos, and memorabilia so that I can be the keeper of the family history. You have encouraged me to search and see if there are historical places in North Dakota that might want these boxes and boxes of stuff that I have….thank you for the story beautifully written. history.

  2. Sally Borg Avatar

    Ah those memories. Though the photos may not have lasting value to others after we are gone, they bring smiles and happy thoughts to our loved ones as they try to figure out what to do with them. Like you, I have no children and when I moved last winter, I wanted to throw out 3 boxes of photo albums! I mentioned it to my niece and she said “Save them for me. Remember how healing it was to go through Grandma’s photos after she died? I want to do that with yours.” And so they sit, in a box in my closet!

  3. JoyceMBaker Avatar

    What a beautiful idea, Mark, and a way to share this legacy with others! Years ago, my husband I and used to buy items at estate auctions in box lots. They would often contain photographs or letters. When we would find those, we would contact the auctioneer — because, surely, the family did not know that these were included in the sale!
    More times than not, the auction house would call back and tell us that the family did not want them. It broke our hearts!

  4. Cynthia Harbottle Avatar

    Mark, it so difficult to let go of memories and especially pictures that have memories and stories attached to them. I wish there was some storage locker that we could scan our pictures and memories and they would live on forever. It’s difficult to let these go because they were so IMPORTANT to us…but sadly unless we are important to someone else they will go by the wayside. My parents have videos made of them and hopefully some day my Great, Great, Great (insert a relative) will want to watch them.

  5. Eva Avatar

    Just visited that beach last week in Maine!
    I have had my share of memory items to consolidate!
    I’m hoping the dwindled-down remains will find a home where they are appreciated, probably not family, as my son already advised me of. It doesn’t take much or many items to bring back moments of earlier times. Sometimes, a scent will do…

  6. David Brake Avatar

    Thanks for sharing this Mark. A few years ago, I was asked to be on the board of a non-profit called LIFE STORY LIBRARY foundation. The organization’s goal is to archive personal stories–narrative, photos, video, audio–that help others experience a slice of life from another time or another environment/culture. The foundation has done some work with ANSCESTORY.COM, the same folks who do DNA testing and promote family history research. I think DNA testing and assembling family trees and history is interesting. But what’s more interesting IMO, are the stories of the people, the things that happened in their lives between their DOB and death. The stories give context and value to the dates and family relationships.
    You made me think. Thanks.

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