“Come in! and know me better, man!” by James Ashcroft


"Come
in!" exclaimed the Ghost. "Come in! and know me better, man!"

Scrooge
entered timidly, and hung his head before this Spirit. He was not the dogged
Scrooge he had been; and though the Spirit's eyes were clear and kind, he did
not like to meet them.

"I am
the Ghost of Christmas Present," said the Spirit. "Look upon
me!"

The line from the classic tale of A Christmas Carol has spoken
to me during many of the readings from our text and each time we have shared
stories in our classroom.  As the ghost of Christmas present called to
scrooge to come in, so do we as personal storytellers open ourselves up and ask
our listeners to know us better. 

The stories that we are sharing
with one another and hopefully, eventually, with others, give insight into our
psyche and our hearts and our souls.  I think the experience is as important
for the listener as it is for the teller.  As we share these personal
moments we see each other as human beings because we are sharing a part of our
humanity.  Once we have felt the joys, heartaches, tears, fears, or any
other emotions rise in us as we listen, we realize that we too have experiences
that we have had to pass through that need to be shared. 

Never at any time did this
feeling of self-expression hit with such force as the night I shared the story
of Ms. Marin and my experience in her class.  This was a difficult story
to frame because I wanted to craft it into something that, first of all, did
not scare me away from telling it.  Second of all, I wanted to frame it
into a story that would express the beauty of the feelings of love and humanity
that I felt as a result of my experience with her. 

My experience of peeing my
pants was a very vulnerable moment from my childhood.  It was also a
defining moment in my life.  As I presented it, I could literally feel
years of fear and embarrassment being lifted from me.  Wow, another
defining moment!  What a cathartic experience!  Imagine the progress
the human race could make if more of us took the time to communicate on this
level.

 

A final thought:

Over the last 48 hours I have
had four different experiences listening to Donald Davis share both his
personal stories and his insights of storytelling.  He invited us each
time into his world as a child, son and brother.  He also invited us into
his world as a teacher, or his world as a husband, friend and father. 
With each story I felt that I was invited in to know him better as a fellow
human.  Each insight he shared asked me to know him better as a
storyteller.  An invitation I gladly accepted and enjoyed.

 

9 responses to ““Come in! and know me better, man!” by James Ashcroft”

  1. Nancy Newlin Avatar
    Nancy Newlin

    The stories that you tell, James, have brought out so many emotions and memories in me. What you say about the telling experience being for the storyteller as well as the listeners, I have also experienced. I tell in my living room, with just my chair and couch listening, yet I laugh and cry and think and wonder and so many memories and strong emotions come out. I am learning a lot about storytelling from you. Thank you. Nancy

  2. Louise Laux Avatar
    Louise Laux

    Jim, you are such a warm, inviting storyteller. Your stories really do address humanity in yourself and others. I thought you were quite brave to share such a personal story, and it has certainly sparked some memories in my life. You have a way of bringing out the MIT very concisely.
    And, about Donald Davis: I agree with you on all counts.
    Thanks for sharing your talent with me and the others in our class.
    Louise

  3. Marianne Avatar
    Marianne

    Great analogy, James, of the ghost of Christmas Present inviting Scrooge to come in and know him better, just like storytelling. I certainly have gotten to know myself better by remembering events from my past and crafting a story of meaning from them. I also have learned much about myself by hearing so many great personal stories that touch a chord in me and remind me of my own lessons learned. Your stories always do that for me so I thank you.

  4. Tui Conner Avatar
    Tui Conner

    James, your stories are wonderful, meaningful, personal. The story of your school experiences was so well told that I remembered some very old memories of my own. You are a brave storyteller and I applaud you.

  5. Sally Borg Avatar
    Sally Borg

    James, your story of Ms. Marin was so awesome. It was powerful and uplifting; I nearly cried. And I’m not much on public crying!! Your stories are so rich. I hope to hear many more from you.

  6. Ruth Shaw Avatar
    Ruth Shaw

    James, Several weeks have passed since you told this story, but it keeps rising up in my memory. Maybe the hallmark of a good story. Many of us had a Ms. Martin, mine was Mrs. Link. I enjoy your direct approach to things and your sense of humor. Ruth

  7. Sandra Brassell Avatar
    Sandra Brassell

    James: You are definitely a warm and sharing story teller. I can get in tune with the feelings from your stories and find much of my own self being brought out for me to take another look at. Thank you.

  8. pralley@msn.com Avatar
    pralley@msn.com

    James
    This week we mark the end of this semester with you telling one final story. We have certainly saved the best for last.! This class has gone on week after week with each of us raising the bar one more notch, one more notch. What a wild ride it has been. I look forward to hearing more stories from you and I look forward to telling more stories to you.

  9. Brad Auten Avatar
    Brad Auten

    James I have an article for you this evening hope it gets in the back Smithsonian on Dickens 200th birthday. Yes the second ghost for me represents Joy – it is temporary yet eternal in its grasp. if we had the second ghost all of the time it would not be the whole story – Scrooge must know he lives in the present and he will not know joy unless he ditches his attitude

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