Where Were We Going? by Sally Borg

       I have a photo of my two older sisters and two younger brothers and I, sitting on a bench seat in the back of a big boat, as we headed out from our little fishing resort on the Rainy River , in northern Minnesota , to the lake.  Several years ago, I made 8×10 copies of the photo and had one framed for each sibling, and have one hanging on the wall in my home.  I looked closely at the photo this week noticing things in the photo as suggested in the book, The Power of Personal Storytelling, by Jack Maguire.  I noticed expressions, our body language, our clothes, as if seeing the photo from an outsider’s perspective.   Where were we going?  Which adults were with us?  Did we seem happy to be there?  Did we even like each other? 

My youngest brother looks to be 2 years old or less, which puts me around 9 and my oldest sister at 12.  Although we are all in close proximity, nobody arms encase another’s shoulders, nobody leans toward another in a gesture of love or excitement about being together on an outing to the lake.  My little brother looks a bit uncomfortable or afraid, having to go sit in the back of the boat for the photo, yet my oldest sister sits stoically next to him with hands in her lap, holding a bottle of Coppertone suntan lotion. 

It wasn’t called sunscreen back then and my sisters and I wanted that golden tan – there was no fear of melanoma or premature aging of our skin.  And I loved the smell of it!  The smell of Coppertone brings back a lot of memories, when I am fortunate enough to get a whiff of it on a passing tourist in Scottsdale . 

We sit there in the boat, with hands clasped in our laps, except my other little brother, who holds a toy gun pointed squarely at his foot.  I know there are rich stories here, about these 5 kids, growing up on that little fishing resort. 

8 responses to “Where Were We Going? by Sally Borg”

  1. Sandi Howlett Avatar
    Sandi Howlett

    Sally, nothing like those childhood shots to evoke memories…and to see them anew with Maguire’s suggested lens. It would be interesting in a picture like this to have each sibling share their own memory of the day, the experience. The title is perfect for the picture!

  2. Clem W. Condon Avatar
    Clem W. Condon

    Great picture Sally. Your dissecting of your picture enticed me to take a much closer look at old photos of my brothers and sisters. Oh boy, how I wish I had the dialogue that was going on at the time! Great observations Sally.

  3. Mark Goldman Avatar
    Mark Goldman

    Very evocative post, Sally. Old photos can bring back rich memories, both happy and sad. Your thoughts about the physical relationship in the photo are insightful. There are therapists who specialize in analyzing family photos to interpret the family structure. Any photo is a moment frozen in time, but all elements of time in a picture can turn into a story. Not only, “Where were we going?” It could also be, “Where were we coming from? What happened on the boat?” Where did we end up, and what happened?” A picture can be worth a thousand words, and those words can be a great story.

  4. Maya Jones Avatar
    Maya Jones

    Sally, how interesting it is to notice the details of the picture and to think about what they tell us of our lives and relationships. You brought up some interesting things to consider. I especially liked the one about your brother pointing the gun at his foot.
    Maya

  5. Laura Rutherford Avatar
    Laura Rutherford

    Oh to have the cartoon bubbles at the top of those precious heads to know what they were thinking and feeling..what a great family dynamic picture. Many stories can be found through this lens..thanks for sharing.

  6. Nancy Jennings Avatar
    Nancy Jennings

    I remember taking Coppertone to the beach and forgetting to put it on until we’d stayed out too long and gotten blistered. Looking back, it seems that always did that, but surely we couldn’t have been that dumb.

  7. Janet Means Avatar
    Janet Means

    I didn’t grow up with brothers and sisters but your photo reminds me of my own five kids, and I think about how they looked in a group picture. Much more pushing, shoving and teasing. The youngest instead of a gun would have his little rubber figure of Boris Badinoff he carried everywhere he went. I still have it some where. Those were the fun times that made the great memories — and the good stories,

  8. Peggy Babbitt Avatar
    Peggy Babbitt

    Sally, Great photo of your brothers and sisters. This reminds me of the time went my family and I were at the beach. The smell of fresh sand, the seagull flying above us, the laughter of children and the taste of ocean salt.

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